I was recently browsing through my Tumblr dashboard when I cam across a post titled, “20 Things Guys Should Never Do To Girls”. Usually I’m not sucked into reading these sorts of things, but my curiosity got the better of me and I began reading.
As I was reading I found myself raising my eyebrows at a number of things, and at the end all I could think of was, are all girls this needy when it comes to relationships? I’m constantly seeing girls ask for boyfriends who bring the flowers and chocolates whenever they’re sad, hold them at night, sweep them off their feet, be there when we’re bawling our eyes out blah, blah, blah…the list goes on. I mean, doesn’t it seem just a little over-the-top? It no longer sounds like you want a girlfriend–I mean, it sounds like you’re asking for a damned doormat you can walk over.
Let’s observe some points on the list that made me, well, cringe:
Talk about other girls. Don’t say they’re hot, pretty, or even nice. We don’t want to hear it. - This is taken directly from the post. I mean, really? Now you don’t want your boyfriend to say he thinks a girl is nice? It seems a little overdramatic to me.
Ask why she’s mad about you. Say you were wrong and apologize. Do not say you didn’t do anything wrong. If she’s made, you obviously did something: Again. Over. Dramatic. This makes it seems like the girl is always right, which is not the case at all. Might as well put a muzzle on him and give him a script with exactly what you want him to say.
Tell her she’s overreacting: But what if, gasp, she is overreacting, and, double gasp, he’s right to tell her.
Go to parties and hang out with other girls: Again, this seems a little (okay not really, more like very) demanding. You might as well put him on a leash.
I don’t know, to be honest, what to really think of this. It just seems like these girls (not ALL, I am by no means generalizing that all girls are like this) want their boyfriends to worship the ground they walk on. I’ve been with my boyfriend for two years now, and we break almost all these rules. We’re sarcastic with each other, taking digs, challenging each other, and we’re both comfortable enough to trust that we’ll be faithful. I wouldn’t trade our relationship for one where I’m constantly receiving presents from him, where all we do is act lovey dovey without any fun, so on and so forth.
This post probably offended a bunch of girls, but oh, well…